What Is Emotional Intelligence? And What Is the Difference Between EQ and IQ?

We often hear about people with a high IQ, or Intelligence Quotients, such as Neil deGrasse Tyson and Stephen Hawking.

More so, we hear about how those with high IQs fair better in their lives and careers.

Though, what is less mentioned is EQ, or Emotional Quotient (commonly referred to as Emotional Intelligence).  Both EQ and IQ have an impact on our personal and professional lives, but it is EQ that is perhaps the secret to an ultimately successful life.

What Is EQ?

bishop chess pieceEmotional intelligence also referred to as Emotional Quotient, is a measurement of a person’s ability and capacity to understand and manage their emotions in addition to another person’s emotions.

The main components of EQ are: being aware of how emotions drive our behavior, how they can impact others, and managing those emotions to your advantage.

Those with a high EQ demonstrate self-awareness, self-regulation, self-control, motivation, empathy, adaptability, innovation, and strong social skills.

The Differences Between EQ and IQ

In short, an IQ indicates a person’s level of intelligence while an EQ measures a person’s emotional management of themselves and others. More so, the differences between EQ and IQ relate to how they may impact your overall quality of life.

IQ is something you are born with. Though you can study and work hard in school, your innate intelligence, the one that dictates what you can and can’t learn, doesn’t grow significantly.

In contrast, EQ is something you can learn and strengthen over time. With proper training, your EQ can get higher, improving your opportunities and capacity for success in your life.

Additionally, IQ, at the end of the day, only determines your ability of logical reasoning. While this is a helpful skill, it is only a part of what makes you truly successful. EQ affects not only how you manage your own emotions, but how you might influence other’s emotions and behaviors.

Why Should You Be Turning Your Attention Towards EQ?

handshake over chessboardWhile IQ is not something that you can significantly improve over your lifespan, EQ is something you can learn and improve over time, and it can be applied to every aspect of your life.

When you think of success and what makes a person professionally successful, you must consider your ability to identify and interpret other people’s signals (both verbal and non-verbal) and formulate an appropriate reaction to them.

A better EQ means a better skill set for understanding, negotiating, and empathizing with others. The emotional intelligence of a person affects a wide range of qualities, all of which are vital to the relationship with others—both personally and professionally.

Some of these qualities include:

1. Self-awareness

To be aware of oneself is to, at the moment, recognize your emotions. Without this recognition, you cannot begin to appropriately manage your emotions.

2. Self-regulation/self-control

Once you’ve identified the emotion, you’ll need to be able to control them and refocus the negative emotional impulses into positive ones. A high EQ also means that you can dictate the duration of emotions through the use of various management techniques

3. Motivation

People with high EQ’s have incredible motivation when it comes to their goals. This is because they’ve learned how to manage negative emotions and promote a positive attitude.

4. Empathy

Any relationship you are in, whether it be professional or personal, requires you to understand how people are feeling. When you can identify these emotions in each moment, you can better adjust your emotions and behaviors to respond positively to the other person.

5. Adaptability

People with high EQ’s are not afraid of change. They find it easier to adapt their emotions and behaviors to any situation. This makes them more likely to propel themselves forward professionally rather than becoming stuck in their old ways.

EQ and IQ serve as measurements of a set of capabilities a person has. A high IQ is valued among many communities, but what we should also pay attention to EQ scores in order to live our most balanced and fulfilled life. Emotional Intelligence makes for better employees, leaders, and innovators in our society.

If you’re ready to improve your EQ, please contact me. I’d be happy to help you make the most of your life.

2018-09-12T18:21:24+00:00

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